There's a Crack in Everything, That's How the Light Gets In // Using Self Doubt to Our Advantage

When we’re uncomfortable or insecure in our abilities or how we’re doing things, we tend to become defensive and begin to question our work at the slightest sign of judgement. We need to own what we know, what we believe in, what we stand for. Otherwise, when others question it — or even when we simply think others are questioning it — it turns the spotlight onto us and all of a sudden we’re not so sure about what we’re doing. All those inklings of self-doubt come to the surface.

I’ve talked about it before, but this shows up for me most when it comes to owning my “job title”, or “what I do”. I’ve worked really hard to be proud of my unique mix of skills and experience, and yet when a piece of that is questioned or when I feel like I’m not fully equipped to handle a project or challenge, all that flies out the door. 

That tiny “crack” of self doubt allows the whole thing to come crashing down if I’m not careful. So instead, I’m trying to focus on learning opportunities that might come out of a challenge and asking myself how I can rise to the occasion.

This Leonard Cohen lyric pretty much sums it up: "There's a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in."

In the same way that we need to be confident in who we are and what we do, it’s also important to own what we don’t know, and instead of viewing that as a sign of weakness, think of ways we can overcome it. That might mean bringing on a project collaborator who is an expert in an area that complements yours, taking a course in order to add a new skill to your toolkit, or even saying no to an opportunity you don’t feel equipped for so that you can say yes to one that is a better fit.

It’s important to recognize that you can’t be an expert in everything, but you can create your own area of expertise and your own special blend of magic in what you do and what you offer. Embrace your vulnerability and imperfection. Be ok with being uncomfortable and let that propel you forward instead of holding you back. This is how we grow and evolve.

Love Notes // Vol. 26

Love Notes // Vol. 26

As the leaves start to change colour outside, the temperatures (slowly) drop, and our feeds become scattered with fall colour palettes and holiday-focused styling (Thanksgiving... Halloween... Christmas... 'tis the season!), it's hard to ignore the fact that the seasons are changing. Though I've always considered myself a summer gal, I've been finding myself loving this seasonal shift more and more lately. My Pinterest feed has definitely taken a turn as well, and with warmer, darker tones populating my inspiration boards, I've been trying to figure out just how to incorporate this new mood into the rest of my content — and my real life as well, whether it's wardrobe, decor, or something else altogether.

But before I start to dive into that a little deeper (I've got a very full folder on my desktop of images that are ready to be VSM-ed), I figured I'd start with a little exploration via a Love Notes post, which is always a good way to start to see where those online wanderings take you. So consider this the "fall edition"... 

Making Our Own Wedding Bands at The Devil's Workshop

Making Our Own Wedding Bands at The Devil's Workshop

I’ve always been the curious type, jumping at opportunities to take a peek behind the scenes at how things are made and the creative process, and if there’s a chance to try my own hand at something? Sign me up! Couple that with my love of storytelling, and you’ve got a recipe for one happy girl, so when Jason and I came across the wedding band workshop at The Devil’s Workshop and were presented with the opportunity to make our own bands, we jumped at the chance, loving the idea that not only would we gain firsthand access into how a ring is made, but we’d have a part in crafting each other’s, weaving that into our story and attaching even more significance to these pieces of jewellery that already stand for so much. 

5 Tips for Working While you Travel

5 Tips for Working While you Travel

The month of September absolutely flew by, which may have had something to do with the fact that I was away for three of the four weeks. Two weeks in Europe for our honeymoon (and also worth noting — my first two week vacation ever), and then a week out west for (mostly) work. Told you it was busy. And though I wish I could say that I have my business set up in a way that lets me completely disconnect while travelling, that just isn't the case, so I found myself with a number of tasks and to-dos throughout those three weeks that just couldn't be ignored, so scheduling in some work sessions was essential.

Veiled Romance

Veiled Romance

Concepts for creative shoots can originate from many different places, and oftentimes how a shoot came to be is just as much part of the story as the final shots themselves or the overall concept.

Such is the case for today's creative, born out of a full day studio rental with only a half day shoot scheduled, it started from a quick email to Scarlet: "...so we have the studio for the day — should we try to shoot another creative as well?" A quick inspiration board and a few emails later, and we had secured a few collaborators and an idea of the direction we wanted to go in, with an intention to leave some room to play on set and explore creatively. Because in my mind, that's always when the real magic happens. 

The Accidental Capsule Wardrobe

The Accidental Capsule Wardrobe

At some point over the past couple of seasons, I found myself with what one may call an accidental capsule wardrobe. 

Capsule wardrobes have obviously been a topic that's been on my radar recently, but it only really hit me recently that I think I have fully subscribed to the concept without ever "officially" setting about to build one. Whether it's a quest for simplicity or an urge for a slightly more polished look, I find myself gravitating towards pieces that err on the more classic side, with a tendency towards luxe basics in shades of white, soft greys and blacks and then layering in pops of colour, metallic tones and textured accents through accessory choices. It's really an exercise is embracing the beauty in simplicity and focusing on the details.

Secrets to Styling Your Wedding Tablescape

Secrets to Styling Your Wedding Tablescape

I've seen a few sneak peeks of the wedding day itself thanks to impromptu texts from Scarlet that  always leave me giddy with excitement, but I'll save those for when we get our full gallery back and I can share the full story of how how our day unfolded. Intrigued yet? Trust me, I'm right there with you. But for now, we'll work backwards a little bit, starting with the last post I did on Style Me Pretty that covered my secrets for styling a wedding tablescape, with five tips and a sneak peek at the mockup we did to bring my vision to life. 

3 Online Courses for Creatives That are on My Wishlist

3 Online Courses for Creatives That are on My Wishlist

Though it's been a few years since I actually found myself heading back to school in September, there's something about this time of year that still has that excitement attached to it. The crispness in the air, the promise of a new season (and with it a new fall wardrobe, of course!), and the opportunity to break open those new textbooks and embrace your inner nerd. 

Except these days, my learning tends to take pace online or more in a workshop format, and it's much more customizable — something that I really love about this new wave of education and all the opportunities it presents.